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CONSIDER THE COURT AND PLAYERS   PJ 12 page 204 Well, the holder of the mind (you, for example) is obviously the accused, but who might be the prosecutor? Who serves as judge? You probably already are aware of the 'crimes" and the appropriate "prisons" should you be con-victed and sentenced. Obviously, you must understand the nature and the function of each participant in this "court of the mind". Each of you has at least three ego states with three differing viewpoints. Your professors have labeled them Child, Parent and Adult. It is interesting in con-cept and will suffice for our purposes herein. What are our purposes herein? YOU--YOU ARE THE PHOENIX--DO YOU NOT FEEL THE NAILS OF THE CRUCIFIXION BEING DRIVEN WITHIN YOUR VERY SOUL? REMEMBER, HOWEVER, FOR THE RE-BIRTHING OF A PHOENIX, THERE MUST FIRST COME THE ASHES. WE SHALL UTILIZE THE ASHES TO FERTILIZE THE FIELDS THAT THE NEW CAN FLOURISH. THE THREE EGOS: CHILD: This is the original and perhaps the central ego state, the part of you that you refer to when you speak of the "real me". It is the feeling part of your being. The Child feels all your normal emotions: hurt, anger and fear as well as their opposites, happiness, love and security. As the component that provides the drive and energy for your creative activi-ties, it is probably the only ego state observable at birth, although the other ego states are developing as fast as the moments pass. The Child stands be-fore the bar of justice as the defendant in your court of the mind because only the Child ego state experiences feelings. In fact, that is exactly what the Child is being accused of -- having feelings. This is the very state of being which is required by God in order to enter into His kingdom for the other ego states are stripped away. The PARENT: Very. early in life the Parent ego state develops in response to contact With people in the outside world, chief of whom are your parents or surrogate caretakers. This ego state is modeled upon people in the immediate environment, the most important of whom is usually mother, since she is so close to the Child during the early learning period. This internal Parent becomes very similar to the important persons in the child's world. It merits its name since it is almost identical in thought and behavior to the true par-ents. A very important ego state to the individual, it provides him with a ready reference to the likely responses of the true parent. This enables the Child to know in advance what effect his behavior is likely to produce in his parent. Each individual commences life with an instinctive feeling self. The expression of the self, the Child ego state, is very much modified by its interaction with the Parent ego state. The function of the Parent is to gather all the in-formation it can about the people in the immediate environment of the Child so that the Child can respond in an harmonious manner to these people. The Child must get on well with these important people since it depends upon them for its survival. The Parent ego state therefore strictly mimics these people and adopts their attitudes and beliefs. It is vitally important for the Child to maintain his parents' approval and to avoid their disapproval. The internal Parent acts as an excellent means of monitoring and modifying the Child's behavior to conform with the true parents' ideas and beliefs so that it can get along well with them--exactly the same as going along with any authorities rules, whether right or wrong. At some point the Child cannot discern which is right and which is wrong and, to keep peace and within the acceptance of the "law" of the parents, he simply accepts their guidelines. The Child is aware of his great dependence upon the true parents for his very existence and they continually reinforce this by example or power with intention, and his greatest fear is that they will abandon him to his own helplessness and isolation. This possibility holds very real terror for the Child. The importance of the Parent ego state can never be underestimated. Be-cause of its sometimes hypercritical attitudes, it may be judged a negative and destructive element in the personality. This is more apparent than real be-cause the Parent ego state primarily intends to protect the Child, although the manner in which it fulfills this function is frequently archaic and responsible for much mental ill health. The failure of many therapists to appreciate this important point has limited their understanding of the clinical problems pre-sented to them. At first it is difficult indeed to accept the idea that each of you has more than one aspect to your personality. You can rather easily accept the Child ego state since most of you are aware of some of your feelings, and you can there-fore appreciate your feeling self, the Child. However, it may be most difficult to recognize the other ego states in yourselves, and this is particularly true with regard to the Parent. You can perhaps more readily recognize these ego states in others than in yourselves. Children at play, for instance, are happy, sad, angry or scared, clearly in the Child ego state.  At other times, as they mimic parental attitudes and behavior, they are operating within the Parent ego state.  Witness the little girl playing with her dolls.  She will cold them for some imagined transgression or praise them for some notable accomplishment. Further observation will reveal that she loves her dolls and cuddles them.  Her behavior reveals her developing internal Parent, which has modeled itself upon her own parents. In addition, she is adopting some of her parents’ attitudes towards herself and is being critical, praising, or loving of herself.  Clearly her Parent is interacting with her Child. The ADULT: Let us now consider the third ego state that can readily be rec-ognized in all human entities. Probably maturing a bit later than the Parent it develops from that part of the mind concerned with collecting information about the world around you and filing it away in the memory banks for future reference. Every minute of the day you are using your five senses and col-lecting information, which proliferates each and every day of experience. This data, accumulated without prejudice, is independent of other people's opin-ions and beliefs, much like the other knowledge that comes the individual's way. This is in direct contrast to the Parent ego state, which is totally con-cerned with learning exactly how others think and feel, then recording the in-formation. With ample data at its disposal, the Adult ego state is similar to a highly com-plex computer which can and does arrive at new conclusions whenever it is presented with a fresh problem. These conclusions are based upon the immense amount of information which has been amassed over the years. An understanding of the Adult role is particularly important for the analytical consideration in resolving problems which the Parent and Child have created. With ample data at its disposal, and unlimited additional information avail-able for the researching, the Adult ego is basically unlimited as to capability if not somehow closed down by the other ego states for one cause or another. Ideally, all three ego states should be acting together in harmony for the greatest well-being of any individual and these three ego states are always present in all humans although in varying states of maturity. They can best be equated to three separate points of view which step forward whenever a situa-tion requires a definite course of action. The Child ego state within you will have a definite feeling about the situation, often expressed as a "like" or "dislike"---with expressions of "I like" or "I want" or the opposite, "I don't like" or "I don't want". The Parent ego, as I have said, is very concerned with what others expect and want and it utilizes words that indicate this concern. When you find yourself saying such things as "I ought" or "I should" or, alternatively, "I ought not" or "I should not", you are using phrases that express your concern for other peo-ple's expectations of you. You are using your Parent ego state. This ego state also comes into play when, like the little girl with the dolls, you counsel, advise or criticize others in a parental manner, or whenever you take responsibility for others. When operating from your Adult viewpoint, you are either giving information in a purely factual manner or presenting conclusions that you have reached from information in your possession, You say things like "I can" or "I will" or “it is”, you may offer the opposite statements of fact or intention e.g. "I cannot”, “I will not" or "it is   not". From the foregoing I trust that you can agree with me on the premise that you are not just one person with a single point of view. You carry within you more than one point of view about any given situation, and these viewpoints can de-clare war upon one another. Consider how quickly a Child's "I want" may clash violently with the Parent's "I should not". Incidentally this is the basis of much Parent/Child conflict of which we still have volumes to present unto you.  Actually, it has all been presented unto you, you probably just haven't found it all in the set of instructions which came with your new self! Alright, now you have met the three states of ego, which all of you possess, so it is now possible to consider the role that each plays in the continuing saga of the court drama being played out in the mind. The ACCUSED: The accused is always the Child, the central part of the per-sonality that is being prosecuted for a feeling or some other attribute that has caused offense. For example, the Child may have been accused of existing, of being a girl or a boy, or even having certain unacceptable human feelings such as fear, anger or hurt. The PROSECUTOR: The prosecutor is usually a parent, more probably mother than father. Mother is the more likely to be affected by any of the accused's attributes since she is in close daily contact with the Child. (This, of course, is suppositional and will vary from child to child and circumstance to circumstance.) Siblings, grandparents and teachers can also function as pros-ecutors. The accuser is always someone within the Child's immediate environment who has been distressed by who he is or something he has done be-cause of who he is. The manner in which the prosecutor communicates his distress may vary considerably, but whatever method is used, there is no doubt left in the Child's mind that he is considered entirely responsible for the distress caused to the prosecutor.   The JUDGE: The unenviable task of Judge falls to the Parent. Why? Be-cause the Parent functions to prevent the Child from alienating himself from the true parent. This must be avoided at all costs. The Parent must therefore judge whether the accusation is indeed correct and whether the prosecutor is sufficiently distressed to consider withdrawal of his support and caring. The Parent must also determine whether or not a punishment should be imposed which will prevent the recurrence of the offense. The Judge may be called upon to make a very rapid decision or to postpone judgment until one or more similar accusations have been made and it becomes clear that alienation of the parent is likely. The DEFENSE: Since there are two sides to every question, in the court of the mind the case for the defense is always fully considered. The Child speaks up in his own defense, and his testimony is simple: he was only doing what seemed right to him. He was just being himself. This seems to him a totally adequate defense. If pressed, he might also plead that he did not know that being himself was a crime or that it would distress anyone. Unfortunately, ignorance of the law is not an adequate defense in any legal system. The fact that the Child did not know that being himself could be con-sidered a crime avails him nothing. His weak defense is laughed out of court. The onlookers in the gallery-- friends, relatives, peers-become hysterical. How could any Child think that being itself could serve as a defense and that ignorance of the law is acceptable as a defense? Well, it is nicer in God's court for it is readily acceptable. In your world of density it is totally unthink-able!   All is not lost, however. What about the Adult? What can he offer in de-fense? Unfortunately, the accusations are usually made before the Adult has gathered enough information about the world to be of much help--no-one usually goes researching until the need arises. He, too, is acutely aware of the Child's dependence upon the parent and may confirm that the Child still lacks the physical and emotional strength to survive the hazards of the world with-out the help of the parent. He may reinforce the Child by assuring him that he is not abnormal and that others with the same attributes are not consid-ered criminals for possessing them. But this support is usually quite minimal. The VERDICT: When the court retires to consider its verdict, it may spend a considerable time in reaching it or decide in the fraction of a second. A proportion of these verdicts are not guilty" verdicts. You do not need to consider those since no problem will arise. Verdicts of "guilty", however, are the ones of great concern.   When the Judge (Parent) has found the Child "guilty" he must pass a sentence which will ensure that the crime will not recur. Whatever decision the Parent now makes must be acted upon by the Parent ego state. In the court of the mind, the punishment is always fashioned to fit the crime, and many years later, as you analyze the punishment which the Child is undergoing, you may hazard a guess at the crime that he was accused of committing. Sometimes the sentence is not immediately administered but is held over the accused's head as a threat (probation). To consider the details you must look closely at the "freedoms" available to the accused. Dharma, we must have respite please. Thank you. We shall consider "the emotions" when we return to the writing. Salu, and good-morning.  Hatonn